Dating at a young age

Many young people these days want to get in a relationship as fast as possible. While theres nothing biblically wrong with this that I can see, I do not believe it is a good idea. In your high school and college years, I believe you should be focusing on God and developing a relationship with him. Sure, be making friendships, and be socializing with others, but not in the since of boy friend/girlfriend. Anytime you choose a boyfriend or girlfriend, it should be because they seem to be someone who loves God more than they love you, and who you believe you can get along with the rest of your life. And thats just boyfriend/girlfriend, not even fiance or marriage yet.

You see, school is a very unrealistic environment. You will most likely never be in such and environment again. When choosing someone to settle down with, get to know them in the field. On a missions trip, in a job setting, etc. Someplace you have to work together, and endure stress together. In everything pray about your choice.

Unfortunately, people tend to go into a relationship with the idea that if it gets bad, they'll dump them and find a new one. This carries over into marriage, and when they don't feel the warm fuzzys anymore, they divorce and move on. This is a very poor way to go about it, especially since the Bible is very clear on God's view of divorce. It is better to go into any relationship ready to plow through for better or worse till dooms day. If your not willing to, dont get into it.

In any relationship, you should be ready to give unconditionally and expect nothing in return. Now, does this mean you should find someone who's selfish? Absolutely not, but you should not give only so you can receive. You should expect nothing in return for what you give. Its like with loaning to a friend. When ever you loan something to a friend, don't expect to get it back. If they are your friend, they will bring it back when they're done using it. If not, maybe they can't afford it at the moment. At any rate, only loan what you can do without. Your mind set should be to help the other person, with no regard to yourself.

May God bless you all.